Steps
- Don't assume you need a lawyer. Most divorces, especially in "no-fault" states such as California, don't require an adversarial legal process. Consider using an experienced mediator instead. In many states spousal support, child support and asset divisions folow rigid guidelines and can be calculated with simple and inexpensive programs that can serve as the basis for mediation.
- Give yourself, and your spouse, time. Reduce the fear and the perception of the need to legal-up by mutually agreeing not to take any steps that will materially affect either of your financial situation without giving each other notice and reasonable time to respond.
- Begin by educating yourself on the divorce laws of your state using the web. Take a look at the external links listed below to start with.
- Think about what kind of attorney you want. Do you prefer an aggressive attorney who will fight to get you everything on your list, or one who will simply put the paperwork through?
- Call your state bar association. They often have a referral number as well as online guides. Some even offer divorce seminars.
- Ask friends and family for names of attorneys they have used and trust.
- Interview at least 3 family law attorneys before making a decision.
- Hire your attorney feeling confident that you did your research.
Tips
- Knowing a bit about the divorce laws in your state will help you better choose the type of lawyer you want.
- Ask how much the divorce will cost you and how long it will take.
- Create a divorce strategy with your attorney. Being clear on what actions need to taken and when will help you save money.
- Consider using a divorce mediator instead of or in addition to an attorney. They can help resolve issues without a courtroom battle, and usually at a significantly lower cost.
- Determine how computer-savvy your lawyer is. He or she will usually be charging by the hour. A highly computer literate lawyer will be less expensive in the end.
- Remember there's a reason for the old joke "Why is divorce so expensive?""Because it's worth it!"
Warnings
- Don't use your lawyer as a therapist. It will cost you and they are not qualified.
- Before you meet with a lawyer, ask if they charge a fee for a consultation.
- Just because the lawyer came highly recommended from your best friend when they got divorced doesn't mean they will be the right attorney for you.
- If you have children, and your divorce is simply about compatibility, genuinely think about how it will affect them overall. They are your responsibility.
- Set consultation with the best attorneys in town, even if it costs you money to do so. This will prevent your soon-to-be-ex spouse from hiring them.
Sources and Citations
- www.goldbergjones-wa.com - A frequently asked questions section on divorce in Seattle Washington and surrounding areas.
- www.goldbergjones-or.com - More information about divorce and family law related issues in Portland Oregon and surrounding areas.
- www.goldbergjones-sandiego.com - More information about divorce and family law related issues in San Diego California and surrounding areas.
- EqualityInMarriage.org - great info on how to manage your lawyer and on how to educate yourself on divorce.
- www.LaviageLaw.com - A guide on how to avoid getting a bad lawyer- has some good points.
- www.McKinleyIrvin.com - A guide on the top ten qualities to look for in your divorce lawyer.
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